I’m trying to break with social convention every day.
I mean, I sold all my stuff, left my job and gave up my flat so I could go shovel shit every day in a remote part of Norway for free!
But it’s not enough. I’m not quite there yet. There’s another social convention that I’m dying to break out of. The role of the Muslim woman. Who she is, what she does, how she speaks and how she believes.
We’re more confused than ever before. This despite us having all the knowledge available to us literally at the tip of our fingers.
And our confusion don’t make us stay quiet. It makes us roar loudly. At anyone and anything that could possibly challenge our own ways of living. Like other people living. Living a life we can’t understand or rather, should I say, won’t.
And I want to break with that convention.
I am not a Muslim woman so you can feel better about me.
I do not believe in Allah because I was raised to.
My faith is not the same as yours despite it sharing a name.
It is personal and individual.
And I refuse to follow conventions that dictate how I should speak, act, behave, live, just so I don’t disrupt status quo.
Fuck the status quo.
It never interested me much anyway.
Live in love ❤️
Here's some life advice from me to you:
Become friends with your enemy.
And when I say your enemy, I'm not talking about the neighbour who keeps stealing your parcels or the colleague who talks down at you. I'm talking about the enemy in yourself.
We all have several voices in our heads that keep communicating to us, to each other and even to no one or nothing at all.
Some of those voices are helpful - they say things like, 'You look good today' or 'you just did a great thing'!
But then there are some voices that are down right bitchy and evil! They're the ones that make you feel bad and make you hate/doubt/feel bad about yourself.
'I can never do that'
'I look disgusting'
'I eat too much'
'If I don't change this, no one will ever love me'
'I'm not good enough for this'
'I always mess it up'
We all have a voice in our heads that spews out crap like this on the regular. And unfortunately there's nothing you can do to completely mute the bitch - she's loud proud and she's here to stay!
But here's what you can do - instead of fighting her all the time, you can be her friend. You don't always fight fire with fire. Sometimes you need to be more gentle.
Talking and reasoning can sometimes be the best ways of silencing the bitch.
Use logic. If the voice says 'you always mess it up', your logic could be 'but this time could be different' or 'I'm not doing it alone this time'.
If the voice says 'I eat too much', your logic could be 'but I can learn portion control' or 'I'll start eating the right things'.
I think you understand how it works.
The trick here is to stop allowing this voice in your head to stop you from doing what you're probably incredibly capable of doing in the first place!
We all have doubt and fears but that doesn't mean we have to give into them time and again. Feel the fear - do it anyway!
So next time when the little bitch start whispering shite in your ears, don't just blindly go with what she says. Be kind to her and gently sway her over to your side. You'd be surprised at how willing she is to go with you at times.
And just in case you've forgot the saying here it is again;
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer !
Do you know the simplest way to start showing your body some RESPECT?
It's so simple yet most of us neglect it or we just don't know how to do it.
All you have to do is:
Not to conversations. Not to words. Not even to your thoughts or beliefs. Listen to your body.
Did you know; your body is in constant communication with you?
Did you know; your body is constantly telling you what it wants, what it needs and the opposite, what it doesn't want or need?
Some things we know how to listen for - like when we're hungry or thirsty. When we need to sleep because we're tired. When we need a hug because we're lonely...
But then there are other things that we're less good at detecting. Things we get comfortable shutting out entirely.
Like the times when the body is desperate for exercise - when it wants movement and activity. When it knows that the pain in the back/hips/knees can be easily fixed by getting off the couch.
The times when it's craving rest - for you to slow down with work and allow yourself to not push so hard. All. The. Time.
The times when it's screaming at you to put down that sugary/processed snack - when it knows you're overloading your entire system. When it knows it's only a matter of time before the system will start failing under the pressure.
When did you last listen to your body? And more importantly, when did you respect your body enough to listen with the intention to act upon it?
So take a moment right now and LISTEN - what does your body tell you right now? And what are you going to do about it?
Excuses - we all have them.
Whether they revolve around your fitness and diet or something completely different, believe it or not, there is a simple way to make sure they don't weigh you down.
In this post, I will tell you how, through a very basic but true statement and here it is:
Your excuses are merely beliefs, they're not facts!
Excuses exist in our heads because sometimes we need them.
Our minds create excuses whenever it thinks it needs to protect us from something - i.e. humiliation, failure, risk of injury or something else that's equally as uncomfortable.
And it's human nature for our minds to do this - in fact, it's pure primal survival instinct for our minds to protect us from potential danger or discomfort be it physical or otherwise.
But here's the thing, the creation of any excuse is there to protect you from a POTENTIAL outcome - read, NOT FACTUAL OR CERTAIN OUTCOME!
So when it comes down to it, excuses are nothing but beliefs - often based on outdated experiences or lack of experiences.
And as it so happens to be with most excuses not to do things like go to the gym or eat a healthy diet, the excuse is often not valid when challenged because the belief is not factual.
Which basically means, you can challenge all your excuses using the smallest amount of logic.
So whenever you start feeling weighed down by your excuses not to go to the gym or do your meal prep, remind yourself of this;
Excuses are beliefs, not facts. And at any given moment, you can change your belief so that it serves you rather than hinders you.
Time for some REAL TALK!
One of the things I constantly hear from people, is that they don't 'feel like' doing something. They don't 'feel like' going to the gym or they don't 'feel like' preparing their food for the next day.
It's even something I hear from people when they have to get work done, either business related or even private/home stuff - they don't 'feel like' completing various tasks.
This is a shitty reason not to do something! Have you ever heard the expression (at least I think it's an expression otherwise I've just made it up); feelings change, your goals don't.
Well there's something about that! If you truly RESPECT yourself and your goals, 'not feeling like it' is never an excuse not to do it.
For the past few weeks, I have been struggling with my anxiety. For whatever reason, its decided to rear its ugly head and as a result, everything I now do, even the smallest tasks, have become a huge struggle.
For the past few weeks I have not 'felt like' doing anything! But regardless of how I've felt, I've got up, dressed up and showed up! ...and on most days, all I've really wanted has been to stay in bed and cry about how overwhelming everything is.
The only reason why I've not succumbed to the desire to hide away under my duvet is because of the amount of RESPECT I feel towards my business and the goals I have with my business.
Now I want to ask you one question. And do yourself a favour and answer honestly because you won't be kidding anyone but yourself if you don't:
Do you RESPECT yourself or your goals enough to not give a damn about how you 'feel'?