Here's some life advice from me to you:
Become friends with your enemy.
And when I say your enemy, I'm not talking about the neighbour who keeps stealing your parcels or the colleague who talks down at you. I'm talking about the enemy in yourself.
We all have several voices in our heads that keep communicating to us, to each other and even to no one or nothing at all.
Some of those voices are helpful - they say things like, 'You look good today' or 'you just did a great thing'!
But then there are some voices that are down right bitchy and evil! They're the ones that make you feel bad and make you hate/doubt/feel bad about yourself.
'I can never do that'
'I look disgusting'
'I eat too much'
'If I don't change this, no one will ever love me'
'I'm not good enough for this'
'I always mess it up'
We all have a voice in our heads that spews out crap like this on the regular. And unfortunately there's nothing you can do to completely mute the bitch - she's loud proud and she's here to stay!
But here's what you can do - instead of fighting her all the time, you can be her friend. You don't always fight fire with fire. Sometimes you need to be more gentle.
Talking and reasoning can sometimes be the best ways of silencing the bitch.
Use logic. If the voice says 'you always mess it up', your logic could be 'but this time could be different' or 'I'm not doing it alone this time'.
If the voice says 'I eat too much', your logic could be 'but I can learn portion control' or 'I'll start eating the right things'.
I think you understand how it works.
The trick here is to stop allowing this voice in your head to stop you from doing what you're probably incredibly capable of doing in the first place!
We all have doubt and fears but that doesn't mean we have to give into them time and again. Feel the fear - do it anyway!
So next time when the little bitch start whispering shite in your ears, don't just blindly go with what she says. Be kind to her and gently sway her over to your side. You'd be surprised at how willing she is to go with you at times.
And just in case you've forgot the saying here it is again;
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer !